We are going through the VA for PTSD counseling now with a specialized counselor that deals only with those cases. He was going once a month, but she wanted to see him once a week. He said he couldn't go that often, so was going to go biweekly instead. He claims she said she isn't even sure if he is having PTSD, it's such a mild case, I think why would she want to see him so often if that was the case then? I think he is in denial about a few things going on in his life, but of course that is an opinion I keep to myself.
I asked if there was a way I could go as a spouse to learn more, but the closest group I have found is 2 and a half hours away, so that hasn't happened. I just have been trying to read and learn on my own for now.
I worry about him running to another girl too, I keep checking things every once in awhile just to make sure that isn't happening, and so far no evidence to the contrary. It has really motivated me to try and compliment him, laugh at his jokes, listen really good when he talks, cook and send food with him, in other words try to be the other woman so he can't find anything better. I know we have this wall between us that is keeping him from feeling the same way back, but I think at least he will have to do a double take to look anywhere else for attention, because he gets it lavished on him when he will let me do it here. He loves attention too. Every since I've known him when we were young, he was the show-off, the guy doing something just a little crazier than everyone around him.
This has all been hard enough, I can't imagine adding that into the mix. You are a strong woman to be able to deal with that on top of the drama already. I guess we are all strong women and men to be going through this at all and still surviving and trying to better ourselves.
M 36 H 36 D9,S6, Expecting D in August 2012 M 13 T 18 Told me he wanted to separate 12/31/2011 Moved Out 2/2/2012 Didn't want to work on things, wanted divorce 4/20/2012
