Looking for some help or assistance as feedback is much appreciated.

My situation is that I was approached about transferring back to to my home area for a position of increased responsibility and pay. There are a multitude of reasons as to why I think this could be a good thing for us:

-Moves my immediate family back (and close to) our secondary family
-increase in pay
-Moves my wife back closer to her mom, which is a relationship that I damaged greatly by involved her when I found out about OM
-I just can't live here anymore.
She has a friend who helped facilitate meetups w/OM. Yes, W made decision to do this, but toxic friend played a part. That's not a friend to me.


Me (34), W(30)
3 kids (7, 5, 1.5)
Married 9 years