I've always felt that no-contact and transparency can only be put in place when the wayward spouse is at the genuine-remorse, "I'm truly sorry and what will it take?" stage.
Your wife clearly isn't there yet.
Without that, it basically comes across as:
Betrayed spouse: "My boundary is 100% no-contact, and full transparency, or I cannot remain married to you."
Wayward spouse: "Who said anything about me even WANTING to remain married to you at this point?"
Your wife is still in full resentment/entitlement mode, in my opinion.
