Not sure where to start, Part 2

[wishing, hoping]

You know, I have just realized something. One of my 180s has worked!!! It has worked slowly over the months, but I have stopped one of the pursuer/distancer things that used to occur in our relationship.

H used to work late. Really late. I would call and ask when he was going to be home and he would tell me a time and never be home at that time. When he did get home I would be visibly upset and that cycle would continue and worsen. Since I started DB'ing I have stopped calling and stopped asking when he would be home. He just gets home when he gets home and I just act as is and smile and say hi. Over time he has essentially stopped working so late every night. Now he is home at a normal decent time. And even though we are heading down the path to D, it is good for the kids to have him around.

So I feel a bit encouraged by this news. This is just a small step, but it's a step forward none the less. Maybe with more time I can see more results.