WAW roomate is telling me she is moving out..

[hangten]

On Monday a friend at work suggest that I text my w and say I wanted to take Tuesday off and have a discussion about our sitch with out the kids.

H- Do you think you can work from home tomorrow so that we can come to a resolution on what to do with the kids?

w- Was in a meeting so couldn't respond...I have to look at my calender for tomorrow..

H- Whatever works for u? we need to work this out

w- I know...Just talked with BIL and together we owe less than you thought

H- I don't really care about the taxes.. it stresses me out... I want to discuss custody with you

w- ok we will talk tonight after they are in bed.

H- I would prefer during the day not at night ... we both get cranky at night...with out the kids present

w- I understand.. Its hard to be off.. I'm so busy...Trying to think of what else to do

H- So am I ...I want an end to this stalemate

w- ok



My w took the day off on Tuesday. I did too I had some errands to do banking and paying for kids hockey next year. We started our negotiations and feelings talk at 10:30am. we did not finish til 3:00 pm. We both worked out a separation agreement together. We both were very emotional. My w said that she thinks what if she is making a mistake. I said if you feel you need to do this I will abide by your decision. I broke the DB rule...I told my w that I still care and love her. My w says that she knows and can see how the kids respond to me now. My w says that she always wanted that. I told my w that I don't want what we had. That was too stressful. My w agreed. I told my w that I do not know what the future holds.

We kinda of completed a separation agreement. My w seemed to stop and just talk to me. No longer was she speaking at me. We were re-learning what each of us were doing the past year. My w said that she will send me a copy. I still don't have it. I don't think she will give it to me. We discussed selling the house. what property she wanted. My w never gave a date. My w stopped and say that she is not sure she wants to go through with this...My w will miss the kids...but she can't live with me. I agreed with her I could not live with the way I was.
My w thanked me for suggesting to take the day off. My w said that she needed this. I agreed with her. I hope I can build off of this.

My w still wants to go through with this. We cut through the tension. I think we can have a good friendship. I want more. It will have to take time. It may even have to go through separation. Maybe even selling the house. I will cross the bridge when we get there. I am not so scared of the future..nor do I know what to expect.