I think it's cute that you think of your wife as a squirrel As someone who is trying to avoid becoming a WAW I can relate to that description.
It sounds like you are doing everything right, you deserve a big pat on the back for that. It's good to hear that you are spending so much time with your kids, too.
---------------- Me: 40, H: 43 No Kids M: 13, T: 15 In Counseling, fingers crossed