SA, last year I sent my xh a post card for his birthday - the first time I have done that in some time, and I got a sobbingly grateful email from him. I mean it was weird, so over the top. just a pc of a favourite painting of his, and it was 'Thank you so much for sending me that lovely pc, blah blah blah.' But that was nearly 5 years post bomb. He is still in a fog out there though, and it no longer worries me. Time really does sort it all out.
