Sometimes it is still hard to believe that that day that held so much promise ended up where we are today. Thinking of sending H a simple text saying, "I remember". Nothing else and with no expectations, but ready for whatever he says or doesn't.
I feel compelled to not let 30 years go with out some kind of acknowledgement.
He remembers the date and time. I will be surprised if he replies back. They are so stubborn and will not allow good back into their lives on a permanent basis. What a shame.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
SA....you remembered and that is what matters. Respect the day even if he doesn't.
oh...and the fact that you even wrote this is a testament to who YOU are!
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Thank you so much for your understanding and support. There's not much about my sitch that gets to me anymore after two and a half years, but I do admit that H was on my mind today.
As Snodderly predicted, H didn't comment on the text I sent him. I do not feel bad about sending it or receiving no response. Detachment is a wonderful place to be.
SA, last year I sent my xh a post card for his birthday - the first time I have done that in some time, and I got a sobbingly grateful email from him. I mean it was weird, so over the top. just a pc of a favourite painting of his, and it was 'Thank you so much for sending me that lovely pc, blah blah blah.' But that was nearly 5 years post bomb. He is still in a fog out there though, and it no longer worries me. Time really does sort it all out.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
