I kind of agree on the becoming less available. There are moments when I struggle to see if I my w is noticing changes or just realizing I am not really into fighting or arguing over things anymore.
However, I don't think that I could deliberately set forth sight the intent to make her jealous and wave my life in her face. If I GAL and she somehow gets drawn into it - so be it. But I don't think I could live my life for punitive reasons. That's probably more old me than who I'm striving to be now.
And though nothing I have done in the last 8 months has haulted the divorce things have gotten better. If there is to be a R, it will take a lot of small steps, but I can't revert back or into something I never was in the first place.
