Just got some interesting intell from a conversation with H over the phone.

He'd rung to ask (as he does every day) what time he could collect the kids from school.

I told him that i'd just heard some terrible news - a friend had lost her BFF to suicide.
Our friend was godmother to this woman's 11-year-old S.

The dead woman's H and S found her in their garage.

So profoundly sad.

When I told my H that the woman had done it because of gambling debts and said something like "as if money could ever be that important", my H reacted with:

"It's not the money, it's the judgement that other people put on you. That's what does it".

He was talking about himself. And, I presume, about the judgement he felt from me over being a failure and losing all of our money.

How to come back from this?