MR

Unfortunately we can't choose what our spouse and parent to our children do.

We can only choose what we do with it.

I know you don't like that your D expresses these things to you and how how you feel about it.

Or

Who you choose to blame for it.

the fact remains

Your W is her mother and always will be. She might not always act as you would like or

act like a wife.

Your D wants to see her parents dancing in the living room together.

That would be her wish I think if you asked her

That isn't going to happen right now

So

How can you make the best for her given the circumstances?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am