You just have to be open to listening to what he is saying, even if it's not what you want.
Touching base on the being a Good Christian - I too struggled with this very question. Asking myself "what about unconditional love. what about turning the other cheek".. etc.
Sometimes God Loves us enough to let painful things happen.
He loves us enough to allow us to make our own decisions.
He will always be there for us, but he let's us go to find our own way back to him. He knows he can't force us to love him.
He also loves us enough to let us feel the consequences of our actions.
That is his unconditional love for us.
And that's the way you need to look at it with your wife. You love her enough to let her go, allow her to feel the consequences of her actions. Love her enough to show her how to treat you with respect.
Tough love is a form of love.. and it's "tough" for both people involved.
IMO - You can totally be a Christian man whilst setting boundaries. But you need to believe that to be true because most likely your w won't see that.
You do that by checking your heart constantly.
For example: I'm sure you're wife is just as scared to lose your S as you are. The idea of spending less time with him probably breaks her heart the same way it does yours.
Yes.. she chose this... but you can still understand where she is coming from.
And from that understanding.. you can be firm, but not cruel.
And that is STILL being a Christian.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
