Yeah, well, because of you, I was craving two things yesterday--and I didn't care what item crossed my path first: a tumbler filled with 3 fingers of caramel colored single malt scotch (neat, of course) or a Krispy Kreme.
Turned out I got neither. So I had to settle for 2 dishes (yes, count 'em--2) of vanilla ice cream with chocolate syrup and a dollop of creamy peanut butter on top. (Did I mention that I'm down 2 lbs? Back to being below my goal weight. Damn it, I deserve this!)
I only want to say a couple things here because I know exactly why you're fretting about this stuff, Trish. I know what the experts all say: that there is nothing anyone can do to treat P/A behaviors unless the person wants to change.
Well, I'm living proof that you can make a bad situation better by allowing them control over their own decisions and others as well. (Not by manipulating you, though, in case you or anyone thinks I advocate this.)
If we all believed what others told us (and modelled for us), we'd have been divorced without taking this path. Right? So why should making things better with a P/A man be any different? Why not see what things you can do that actually help?
BTW, Mr. W. didn't respond well at all to counselors who put him down like a bad little boy. (That would be all of them except for the MC we used last year.) I think for P/A types, it affirms that someone else thinks of themselves as an authority over them and brings out the stubborn and belligerent aspects of their personalities even more.
"You really think so? Well, I'll just show you..."
Worry about today, my friend. Tomorrow will come soon enough and you can worry about it then.
Hugs!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 
