Happy Friday to All,

I so glad you stopped in! Even if I didn't know you were!!

Pen, I can just imagine you sitting there nodding

LNL!! Hang in there.

I think we were on a roll there weren't we!

Bets, I so wanted to answer you with some coherency!!!

Yesterday (Thursday) was a wash out ....MOSF(my own stupid fault)
Didn't watch what I ate.....the whole day gone to exhaustion. I needed to rehydrate and protein load!!

I wrote Betsey and told her what a goofy thing I had done...
I think I will have an aversion to doughnuts for quite a while!! UGH!!

I'm Back on track today.

Things are going along okay.

I seem to be so acutely aware of T's and My communication dynamics!
I have successfully managed to wade through 4 times when he showed indications of insecurity and fend them off by stopping what I was doing, being sensitive to where he might be at and confront him (maybe too strong a word) acknowledge! his "inner workings", about whatever it may be.

I feel slightly empowered by all this??!!

However, I am also sad to recognize how ingrained this pattern (p/a)is for him and how unlikely it is ever going to change.

From all that I am reading, councelling, is nearly useless with this sort of behavior. They the p/a just rationlizes themsleves out of their behavior and challenges the councelor on their motives and intentions. They often times tire the councelor out with their refusal to see how any of this is coming from themsleves! Basically a defense mechanism that they use with the C to regain a sense of control.

This very thing has happened each time with C for us.

Sounds pretty grim if you ask me.

I'm hoping it's just because I am PM'ing and a little extra tired from yesterday.

Taking it one day at a time seems ridiculous to me....I'll wake up ten years from now and say WTF!!!!! was I thinking?


Trish