Yeah, none of this is about being vindictive or spiteful or punishing. It's about being who you want to be and living the way you want to live.
Who wants to live in limbo, fixated on a WAS that does not want to be with them?
Again, watch Swingers. Watch his life when he is in limbo and still fixated on her. Just look at Mikey. He's a wreck! He overlooks all the positive things he's got going for him. Not just how positive his future is, but how positive his present is. But because he is so preoccupied with his WAS and the broken relationship, he overlooks the good and high potential in himself and his life.
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Like gr8 said, no one needs to play a waiting game. You accept that your W has fired you as her H. If you get fired from a job, do you hang around texting your boss and writing them letters and hoping they will change their mind? Nah, you'd maybe work to improve yourself and fix whatever you got fired for, enjoy some of the time off while you can being busy with stuff you enjoy, and then start to look for another job. There are thousands of other jobs out there that you are highly qualified for. Maybe the boss will realize what a big mistake she made in letting you go and call you to ask you back. For her sake, hopefully sooner than later.
If not, you'll be ok because there are LOTS of well-paying jobs out there with all kinds of benefits you may not have even imagined. And a well spent vacation ain't bad either.
(Gr8, btw, it is gr8 to see you. Sounds like things are going awesome for you and the kiddos, congrats!)
Me-53 W-49 D22,D18,D15 T-Since-12/2001 Married-9/2004 She Moved Out-5/28/2010 Piecing start-04/2011 Now-together Thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2079304
