WHG: Looking for the shrinking cake

[workinghardguy]

Ok... if anyone sees this in the next 30-45 minutes please respond, I need advice!

This is the text message I just got from my W, "I'm about to cry... I don't have enough money for my meds or SS's haircut or anything else the next two fu@%ing weeks... any way you can pay for SS to get a haircut tonight?" Then goes on about how she can pay me back next check as there's extra (three pay period month). She ends it with, "I hate to ask but I'm really having a bad time and don't know what to do..."

The backdrop is that I had already decided on Friday that if SS hadn't had a haircut yet I'd get him one. Why? Two reasons. First, if SS shows up with his haircut out of regs he'll get crap from his command structure (as he should). Second, the Commander's kid can't show up with his hair out of regulation... that's just not cool. Irregardless of whether he's mine or not, or the divorce/separation, or whatever... it makes me look bad to have my cadet out of compliance and it makes him look bad through no fault of his own.

But I had just planned to do it. Now she throws the begging into the equation. Bah. Any advice is great. I know this is rescuing... this suxx