Sounds like we are in kind of similar stages of limbo...I feel for you. Our MLC'ers haven't moved out, but can't yet commit...but they ARE still in-house...
Wendy has the greatest metaphor....pretend he is a feral cat you are trying to be friends with...leave out a bowl of food and don't make any sudden moves...
That he will talk, and answer questions is good, "maybe" the fog is clearing a bit (my W is doing the same these days).
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Ht tells me that he sits in his truck thinking. Asking himself if he is making a wrong decision. That he thinks maybe his stubborness might get in the way.
Be careful with the questions, the MLC'er is aware of the damage they have done, at least sub-consciously, and we don't want their pride, regret, fear, etc to interfere and send them running back into the tunnel...
One/day/week/month at a time, no expectations, have gratitude for what he does give... I like to review the stages of MLC and sandi's 37 rules often...
IMO, I do think that there is a point in time that is reached that if they haven't yet moved out/run out, they won't, unless something scares them way back into the tunnel.
It is sooooo difficult, especially when those glimpses appear, to keep our patience up (I am having a hard day today with my patience,,,).
just my .03...
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
