I watched that secene at least 100 times, even lived it.
The scene at the end of the movie is just as note worthy. Is Ex finally calls him, but he has moved on. He swithes over while the ex is I love you. He doesn't even give her 5 minutes!
I lived in fear too. I thought if I did _____ then my WAW wouldn't think I want to work things out. This fear keeps you in limbo. Ask anyone how limbo feels and I guarantee you they will ALL say it sux! Ask those who chose to move on regardless of the outcome and they will all say it felt great to be out of limbo.
Ben11,
These little texts she sends you area tests so she knows she still has you as a back up plan. Removing yourself as a back up plan will force her to face her reality.
I also get the whole mentality of not being "a good H" We blame ourselves for the break up for too long. We say: If I only did this Or If I could have one more chance Things would be different. Right?
The fact you came to an online forum to save your M speaks volumes to me and others.
We all have choices, even our WAW. I'm sure they could have all done something different too.
The fact is were here. You are young. Don't you want someone who wants to be with you? That's the mentality that got me through my D.
I deserve someone who is awesome. I have kids with my Ex. I speak to her only regarding the kids. I was completely dark just months ago. I didn't even say hi to her when we exchanged the kids. Guess what? she noticed, she started to make little trival contacts with me throught texts. Since it wa about the kids, I didn't reply. She told our mutual friend that gr8 doesn't talk to me at all.
I couldn't care less what she does with her life any more. I have two great kids who love me so much and want to be with me all the time. She works second shift and only sees D7 Friday nights.
That's the reality she chose. She knows exactly what to do if she ever wants my friendship in the future. For now, she hasn't shown me. And that's perfectly fine with me.
Remember, YOU have a choice in all this too.
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
