Unlearning, Learning, Doing it Differently

[JustStunned]

Baby steps Crimson, baby steps. Patience is the watch word here.

From what I’ve read and I apologize for not reading it all but the last few pages it seems as though she would like to trust. It also seems as though she has looked about and doesn’t see better elsewhere, so maybe trying again is something to do until something better becomes apparent.

It seems she is holding onto the D as an out and holding onto you as plan B until plan A becomes apparent. I understand the pressure.

Patience is needed because she is skittish. I doubt she knows what she wants from time to time.

Driven people are often intense enough to display it quite prominently. Let go of the intensity. Be calm and patient, give time for her to trust what she needs to trust and then give more time.

Permit an old hunter to use an analogy

There is a place I hunt regularly. It is an old apple orchard nestled in a small opening of larger trees; Oaks and a small grove of pines are higher up the hill.

There is a doe coming into the orchard, she wants the apples, but she doesn’t trust her safety. The apples beckon so she tests the air looking for the slightest scent of danger.

If I’m focused upon taking a shot my adrenal reaction will create tension in my body and she is likely to pick out a slight movement or smell and be gone, my hunt busted.

If I am relaxed allowing life to happen, focusing upon the evening sunset, focusing upon the evening's sounds and scents, the scene of this beautiful animal in my periphery slowly building trust then she is much more likely to approach and feed. This provides many more options and I am very likely to simply enjoy her presence and what else it may bring.

Patience, one cannot control the events occurring around one. Controlling ones actions may influence the outcome of the events.