Hoping my marriage can be saved :(

[Maggie3]

Thanks Labug- I think you are totally right about it being a defense mechanism. I'm just so frustrated because I know I am a good person and was a great partner to him. If/when I caused him pain it was never my intention. It's just so hard seeing how easily he can walk away. I'm also feeling really badly for his mother. My family had become her family. She has no siblings, her parents have passed away, and her only other child lives across the country. So now it is just her and him again and I know she is very upset by the decisions he is making. I know I need to only worry about myself but I can't help but worry about her, though I have cut off contact with her as well for my own well being.