How hard are you working your program? As vero said, get a sponsor if you don't have one. This early in your sobriety, a good sponsor will be your best guide.

Have you read The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss