She came home from her personal counseling session last night. She was in a good mood. She even called on her way home to see how things were going.
She immediately wanted to talk about our relationship and ideas to make it better. She said her therapist made some suggestions about how we can handle one of our common fights: When she gets angry about something small, I get annoyed and angry. It becomes a vicious circle. She also reacts the same way when I get angry.
He suggested the person that isn’t ORIGINALLY angry needs to catch their emotion, grab the other person’s hand and ask what they can do to help. This will, in theory, either strike up a conversation or assist with diffusing the other person’s anger.
They also talked about Love Languages . W confirmed my thinking that she likes words of affirmation and acts of service. But I believe there may be a specific dialect that I need to hone in on. Or perhaps I need to find some new words/acts as the old ones have become stale.
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Our Son couldn’t go to daycare today due to a slight fever. I immediately took care of finding backup daycare and decided to work from home to help out. This isn’t my normal behavior. Typically she’d work on finding daycare first. The funny thing is I didn’t even think about doing it; I just jumped into action!
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She kissed me goodnight. And blew me a kiss on her way out the door this morning.
Tonight I’m going out with a friend after I help get our son to bed.
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
