waiting for the other shoe

[labug]

I know you're in a lot of pain and this is very difficult but have you noticed you keep doing the opposite of what DB and other posters here suggest?

She cried, do you think that's because you engendered warm feelings in her or because you dredged up something painful from the past? And it was in an effort to make you feel better about something you feel guilt about. I'm not saying you deserve to feel guilty but that you do, and maybe it's time to forgive yourself.

This is about becoming a better person and controlling impulses is a part of that. When you want to talk to her, control that impulse. Wait 48hrs, Yes, wait at least 48hrs. WE all think we have amazingly wonderful, insightful things to say that are going to make our S see the light.

That is true...almost never.