I read that post earlier about Al Anon making her hate you more. Did you ask why? Maybe it's that she's afraid to feel her feelings after shutting them down for so many years. That's the normal reaction of someone living with an alcoholic, no one can hurt my feelings if I don't allow feelings.

Maybe she should try a different group.

One day at a time!

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss