WHG: Looking for the shrinking cake

[workinghardguy]

Hmmm... saw W tonight briefly. Had SS and S tonight and took them over to W's house to put S to bed on time. W was annoyed that I put him to bed on-time and she didn't get to see him. C'est la vie.

I was working with SS to get his dress uniform squared away for this weekend. I mentioned to W that he needs a haircut as his haircut doesn't meet regulation. It didn't meet regs three weeks ago either when I also mentioned it. She got sort of "pissy". Not at me per se, but just generally. She starts on this riff about how she just got paid, her check was shorter than she thought it would be, and she barely has enough for rent.

Yeah.. that suxx. I grabbed my coat and told her I'd see her Friday when she gets the kids, then walked out. She followed. She apologized for going off about the money, that she knows it's not my problem.

We discussed Wednesday where she agreed to watch S while I am out of town for work for the night. She failed to realize she works the next morning and having S means she has to scramble that morning. Ok... well, you said you'd do it and I haven't made other plans so I expect you will still do it. She agreed she would and said she didn't want me to think she was trying to get out of it... though that's exactly what it was. Or if not get out of it, get me to solve her problem for her. I simply said that I'd be out of town so she'll have to figure it out.

She started to vent about her job. This was the job that was the solution to her life. It was part of what triggered her MLC I think.. she was so secure that she was ready to "go it alone". I just said I had to go and walked out to my car.

I'll admit it was hard leaving, but it's always hard. I miss my kids so much. But it was a relief as well. I was perfectly fine not having to own her issues.