Hey MrBond, I appreciate you dropping in. How are you doing this fair Monday?
I think the tricky part about standing tall and exuding confidence (at least in our situation and context) is that my wife may be reminded of (in her eyes) my taking advantage of her and her life in general. As a spouse of a porn addict, that IS the mindset. Now that she's "free" of me, her so-called 180 is to be herself again, to be self-worthy, to be more confident over me.
So when I stand strong and be assertive (as positive traits), couldn't it remind her of her helplessness and "victimization"?
