"Sandi, I so appreciate your views from the other side. I look back to your old posts often. You remind me of my good other sex friend. She will from time to time play devils advocate and look at thing from W point of view. Even when she knows it might hurt, she makes me think."

Thanks, I appreciate that very much!

The DB method is designed for the spouse that wants the M to work. The one who doesn't care if the M will last, isn't going to be working the DB methods. It's got to be difficult not knowing how the other one thinks about what you're doing. I guess that's why I keep hanging around giving my 2 cents.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!