Cycler ....I’m sorry, I only know about your sitch what you’ve written on this last thread. But I feel you’re in a lot of turmoil right now, and I wanted to quote something back to you:
“He has been very forthcoming about her and there were many nights we were in bed together while he emailed her something, he always showed me what it was. In fact about two months ago he tried to dismiss her, but found it too difficult to involve a new lawyer this far into the proceedings. No other lawyer would take it on so late in the case without involving her! They appear to have a completly professional relationship and she knows I am here with him and that we are reconcilled.”
Now while more may have happened that I don’t know about, this doesn’t sound like someone who is involved in an affair with said lady. Nor does calling her infront of you.
As for the e-mail – I wouldn’t send it. Your feelings about the relationship in general are, methinks, an entirely separate aspect. By mixing up your feelings about your relationship together with the accusations about the lawyer, you are enabling him to take the focus entirely off the former and onto the later ….. making you “the bad guy” because he is “completely innocent” with regards to the lawyer. Which, lets face it, he very well might be.
Take a deep breath, and take it from a Former OW – I’m not getting “affair vibes” from what you told us.
The other stuff, yes, very valid, and very worthy of discussion … but maybe not tonight, but when you've calmed down a bit. Hang in there, we’re here.
