2012sf-- I am in your exact spot. Although I am male. Anyway. My goals are to be as gentle as possible let her contact me, and not be judgmental. Last week dialogue was good for us. I finally by the end said lets end conversations positively. I cannot give much advice. But patience and more patience seems to be an underlying point in the healing process. I also am attaching the More nuggets of wisdom http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=794106&page=1
It has several scenarios that may be useful to you. I have gone through numerous and cut and paste the points I think are similar to mine. When I feel as though I need some inspiration I look through that document and see that my goals are just fine and that patience is what is needed. I have 6 full pages of things to keep me from dwelling. This might help you.
