Oh I forgot to mention...to all you folks out there who are having a very hard time keeping your cool - it can be done. As Michelle states in DR and what other have posted here: find a place and time to vent, cry, and cool down. Here are some examples that I've experienced recently: For weeping - I've found a place in our basement that is very private. For cooling down - my wife has a bad habit of stripping down right in front(most of her cloths are still in my room) of me even though she knows how much I love her and how attracted to her I am. She did this to me yesterday and I nearly let her have it with a self rightous rant. But I went to the computer room, checked my email, and the weather, and managed to control my temper. I realized I needed to talk to her in a respectful manner...I went to her room and in a very friendly way, requested that she not strip in front of me any more because she knows how I feel about her. To my amazement she immediately apologized (she rarely apologizes for anything) and said that she would make a conscious effort not to "tease" me (we haven't had sex in over 2 months, plus I'm working out all the time so my sex drive is going through the roof) like that again. I can be a real hot head and a real ranting jerk sometimes...so folks...if I can do it you can to!
