Yeah. I'm starting to feel a little better about the separation. I'm still terrified for my children but I've been reading a book recommended by our MC - The Truth About Children and Divorce by Robert Emery. Apparently the devasting effects that children can experience during divorce that can propagate throughout their lives can be mitigated; IF the parents minimize conflict and work to have joint custody under a peaceful and respectful environment as possible. A very tall order indeed, but my W and I have promised to keep this as amicable as possible and, though I still love her I've promised to be her friend and to be a good parenting partner. I'm not advocating divorce here...I just believe that I can accomplish two things - 1. By being calm, decent, and being a responsible dad this separation hopefully won't be that horrible for my kids. 2. If I can be a loving, kind, cheerful friend to my wife she just might realize that life with me isn't so unbearable and that she will come back. That's my hope! Best of luck to you too Hoser.
