Unlearning, Learning, Doing it Differently

[2thepoint]

She is testing you! She is looking for a crack in the veneer you seem to have developed since she dropped the bomb and fled for divorce. She still doesn't trust your changes which is why she makes comments about proceeding with the D.

Something struck me about one of your prior posts where you talked about her stopping by with her friends out in the car and then later telling you that she knows how to pick good friends. You didn't say it but her comment tells me that either you said or did or behaved in away that compelled your W to say what she did. She still has her doubts.

Sometimes people need to verbalize what they are thinking so that they hear it through their ears instead of their mind. I don't know what will come of this but the more you struggle with this, the harder it is going to be for your W to believe your changes are permanent and not just a show.

I know you are probably walking on egg shells trying to steer clear of hot button topics and making yourself look as attractive as possible. But, I'm interested in knowing if you have verbalized to her your feelings about this.

Remember MWD talks about "Asking for What You Want". Have you done that? Does your W really know how you feel about things? Are there things that you want to tell her but are afraid? Maybe it is time to loose the fear and speak up.

Maybe you should talk this over with your C to get a read on whether this would be productive.