Yep, the best thing you can do with H's phone is not look. Remember, any suspicion that you get, your imagination will fill in the worst possible interpretation of events.

You and I have both been cheated on. It's very tempting to live "on defense" and constantly have our guard up. That's no way to live.

For what it's worth, my attitude is "I'm going to be the best partner I can be. W can make her own choices in terms of pursuing affairs, and then I will make my choices about leaving."

If he's cheating again, you'll know. Leave it at that.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015