MrBond,

I think through over the weekend and see what you have wrote here, I do not want to give up. I do not want my son to be raised by the in law. (He is going to die in next 15 to 20 years time too so I could not be bother)

Now I want to go step by step into Michele DR.
I am at this stage of "Know what you want". So the goals must be solution oriented.

so this is my initial goals.

1. I want my wife to stay married
2. I want a better commumication between us
3. I want the family to be back again

In my situation, I do not know how to break this down into something that can be achievable within week or two. I need some guidance here.