hi crimson - even though i'm teetering every time there is a little bomb, so i'm not the best example - and i don't know if this helps to say this, but THIS is the time when you have to have even more faith, even more trust in yourself and not lose sight of the big picture,
the less they feel our resistance (any resistance) the less they feel pressured. could you try maybe to stop thinking about the divorce thing and just keep focusing on DB'ing and your 180's etc, and everything you were doing before the d thing came up?
i'm suddenly waking up to the fact that resistance is the key to this somehow - and even though we may act as if we aren't, we "emanate" it in some way or the other and that's what they pick up on. so i'm working hard to give up any and all resistance on every level to my sitch and truly go with the flow - it is giving me a lot of peace of mind - and i hope it can give that to you also.
hang in there, and remember that even a divorce is not the end of your efforts - it's just a detail - even though a really really hard one to deal with, the real thing to focus on is continuing your DB'ing efforts. don't let the d thing override what your true feelings are about saving the r.
take care zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
