I feel as though I am teetering on the edge of a backslide. Really trying to gut it out and distance myself from things.
I asked her to tell me when she reaches the point where she thinks our relationship is a true lost cause - because that is when I will give up. She responded "ditto to you".
Crimson
Crimson, Hang on in there.
Remember what MWD says right at the start of DR: we might not know what will bring our Ss back, but we know for sure what will drive them further away: pressure, questions, pursuing, R talk.
Give her time. Do not backslide. The more time you give her, the more she will trust your changes.
And on this point of giving time even when it seems that the spouse has made up his/her mind that it's over, you might like to look at AliSuddenly's threads which are listed at:
I've suggested this reading to others who have an MLC sitch: the genders are reversed for you, but the gist is, the WAH was a definite goner and was SO not open to R.
But finally... he came around and they ended up in piecing and had a long-awaited baby.
Ali is a great chronicler and the understanding that can be had from her posts is something that's saved my sanity. Hope it helps you too.
