Yes, I definitely relate to the way you feel like your wife had been replaced one night with a clone. I know my husband has said he had worked through all of this before he dropped the I'm moving out bomb on me. He feels he tried to talk to me, tried to work on things. I can see where he had mentioned things a few times, but I never realized the gravity of the situation and that he was really upset, just thought he was blowing off steam here and there. Now that I am awake and realizing what had been going on, he has exited the scene and feels he doesn't want to re-visit it at all. He is willing to take his chances on anything, just so he doesn't have to be in this marriage anymore.
I know he had a part in things too. And he definitely isn't seeing any of that part. I am not bringing it up either, just trying to validate everything I have done and work on it to the best of my abilities. I can't imagine not being with him. It is really hard for me to picture that, and it is hard to picture the type of life he thinks we can have as a divorced couple. I'm still having trouble with holding back on touching him like I normally would, and he is doing things like getting his hair cut at the barber's shop, which I have done for him for the last 17 years.
I know I have to just be prepared for the long haul and get really good at being patient and avoiding any relationship talk like the plague, but I am not doing very good at it. I do good for a couple of days, then we have a huge deal. It seems like they are getting worse too. Yesterdays was one of the worst. It really sets us back for awhile. I have to try hard to make sure I don't mess up for a long while. A couple of weeks at least. Otherwise I might as well speed dial the lawyer's office, hand him the phone, and get my pen ready to sign.
M 36 H 36 D9,S6, Expecting D in August 2012 M 13 T 18 Told me he wanted to separate 12/31/2011 Moved Out 2/2/2012 Didn't want to work on things, wanted divorce 4/20/2012
