BM- thanks and I see you had a great weekend! Excited for you.
Accuray- thanks for the book suggestions, almost done with the "how to improve your marriage without talking about it". It made me realize how much impact a SSM can have on a man. I totally changed in that area after we had kids.
Tonight we were supposed to tell the kids, but I have a pretty bad sinus infection and feeling under the weather so he said "let's just do it tomorrow". I think he is dreading it as much as me.
Tomorrow am we have 2 hours of therapy and my DB coach says my 180 would be to open up and be vulnerable like H was last week. I am nervous about that, just writing it makes my heart race a little. But no one said this would be easy.
He is slowly taking things over to his new place. He got an air mattress and has been sleeping on that when he stays there. I gave him some extra kitchen stuff and the name of the movers my friend used, since my coach said to pretend that it was my brother moving. He hasn't given me an official move date.
One of his main complaints is how messy I kept our house, and I have been really good about keeping it warm and inviting when he comes over. He did comment on it today, I said "thanks".
Even if we don't R our M, I can say that this has been good for his relationship with our kids. I can be a bit overbearing with the kids, they have to eat this, not watch that, etc. I have totally stepped back and allowed him to do what he wants with them. Although they are eating more happy meals than I would choose at least he is now taking a much more active role with them.
I have been kind of up and down this weekend, because it seems like we are getting along well, but I don't want to get my hopes up. I find myself thinking about the "what ifs" much more than I would like to admit. I am trying to trust the process.....
M 37, H 37 M 10, T 12 S 4 D 2 3/14/12 ILYBNILWY 4/2/12 H consults a L, files nothing 4/26/12 H moves to his new place
