Regarding dating and such she said "you set the bar pretty high". I asked what she meant and she said that "there aren't a lot of guys out there like you". Half joking, half not - I said that there's me sitting right here. She responded "yes, but we have major issues". She said she was open to working on them - I just said so was I.
I will never understand. How can she be so complimentary like that, that I am "so handsome", such a good father, "set the bar so high" - and yet say that the divorce is "probably" going to happen and that we have major issues. I don't think any of our problems are/were out of the ordinary for couples in our position. I guess I define "major" as something very different. Crimson
Hi Crimson,
At the risk of being 2x4'ed for focusing on the detail of what she said (!) I'd like to point out another perspective. You are looking at the issue of what constitutes 'major' issues.
For mine, she is still in the mindset that your issues are ongoing. That is, she is saying "We have issues" (present tense).
You know, from all the work that you've been doing, that these issues are something that can be/have been changed.
She's not there yet.
And it's unlikely that you can do much more than you're doing - it's going to be a matter of time. When she sees that the issues don't come up any more, she will start to trust that you can be together again.
