Thank you, Kimmerz, for stopping in and for looking into my sitch. I appreciate your input and am planning on letting my W know that I will not help her with the D.
I expect that my W will get mad but I also know that it is a boundary that I need to set for me.
She has made all the decisions the last few months... to not go to therapy, to separate, to not talk about things, to start a new relationship, to move out of state, to file... with no concern about how I might feel or how any of it impacts me.
and yet, I was willing to go against that which I believe in, our M, to not upset her.
yes, you all are right, i need to 180.
it gets confusing though, when to act "as if" I am fine no matter what and when to stand up for the M.
recently, she told me that she advised a friend to go to therapy with her husband...
wth...why did she not go to therapy for our M then?!?!?!
she admits that we both reacted too much once the sitch started... and that pushed things further and further along...and yet she won't even slow it down...to stop and think for a minute.
she barrels ahead with the OW and D.
why the apparent CONTRADICTIONS? is that MLC?
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
