H did say he may regret his decision in a year. He can't really miss me because I am always here and I think when he looks at me he just feels guilt and shame. I guess I should start by making him feel comfortable around me and be friends. Maybe from being friends the spark will come back?
I need to call my coach and get more pointers.
w&h, Your last few posts are describing my H's patterns exactly, so I know how this hurts.
Substitute 'soccer' for 'football' on Sat and you have my H missing his son's game - he was literally across the road at another oval watching his 'teammates' play a Z -grade game in preference to watching his own boy. Only goes to show they are suffering from a definable mental condition.
I know how you feel about the guilt and shame we evoke in our H's - it's such a problem. Why would they want to be around us when we just make them feel bad? I wish I knew the answer; I'm hoping that time and consistent niceness will have some impact. But, like you I am having worries about the fine line between acting 'as if' /validating/friendship and pursuing.
I'll keep watching your posts to see how things go for you - keep reporting and try to keep up all the good work you are doing.
These OWs are just a fantasy; time is on our side.
