Not sure where to start, Part 2

[BklynMom]

Trust me I know how bad it hurts. I know it hurts more than you could have ever imagined. Write a list of all the wonderful things in your life.
1. You have healthy beautiful kids.
2. You have a roof over your head
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All the stories on these boards of R occur after numerous years. I did not want to hear that it could take a couple years when I first came here so I sent a date for myself. That I would "fake it, till I make it" until a certain date and after that date I would freak out on H and tell the a&& off. I keep pushing off that date. Maybe one day it will come but its not today.

I am glad to hear you have a coach. Keep calling they help your motivation a lot. Focus on yourself and your kids.

I used to be super cheap but now I spend money to make my life easier and to have hobbies. I have had someone clean our apartment every couple of weeks, which I never would have done before bomb but it makes my life easier. I spend money on yoga and guitar lessons. I even buy the fancy yoga gear they sell at the studio. Be good to yourself.

Get your hair done. Be the woman you always wanted to be. This other woman has nothing on you. Dont make her more important than she is.