On the basis that OW is reading this All women who have affairs with married men are pitiful, desperate, and degraded. We used to call them bottom feeders!! It will all end badly, and they will suffer most of all. I have seen this in every case here.
You can change your posting name btw and leave us some hints that only an intelligent person would pick up [rules out OW!! he he] Perhaps not Hawaiian girl though or Quilting woman.