Sounds like there is going to be a major spring cleaning going on at your house. I don't envy you having to do this. We don't realize just how much we accumulate over the years.
If she has hacked your computer, there may come a time when she's going to be caught and then there could be some charges filed. She's exhibiting stalker characteristics and that's not good.
As for your h, what a darn wussy. He's the reason for all of this mess and he should man up and take care of the phone issues, etc.
Please take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
