Thanks for your reply dbmod. it hurts so much to live with someone like a roomate. When he is with me - I feel so unwwanted. Although he says he doesnt want out- he is trying to work on himself in his own therapy. Question is- how long to wait? I havent been touched in almost a year ( and I think Im pretty cute and loveable). But maybe thats thebproblem- need to refocus. Work on me. My parents and family all feel as if I am hanging on because of my fears. But why do I have to be potentially divorced to overcome that fear? I am in therapy and so is he. So confused. Not even sure that the DB sessions will work....
