Your spouse has given you some tough things to hear. Are you in individual counseling (if you have said so, and I missed it, I apologize).
You have been given some really good advice from some of our vest vets.
I think you have to have some professional advice as well, from someone who is pro-marriage (maybe your MC is???) and separately from someone who can help you personally. Your H might need the same. The personal counselors should not try to end your marriage.
If the situation described in your first post (that your H was describing you to the counselor) is true, you might find a need for medication. I'm not saying its needed or not, I think it might be helpful for you to have that assessed (maybe you have).
