Hello . This website has really been an inspiration. Although I feel as if I am the only one putting sincere effort into saving my marriage. I married for almost seven years and have three young children. About a year and half ago, my marital crisis began by my husband checking out and completely withdrawing from me. We had our issues, nothing big. He hated my carelessness and not being organized. he hated my trust issues- what wife would like her husband going out to bars with friends on Saturday nights. It wasnt that often- but he never knew what an emotional conection is. He is a classic avoidant. he yearns connection but doesnt know how too. He was very different in our courtship- but doesnt know what to do to sustain a long term marriage. Anyway - sorry about the long post. We have gone through some counseling not a lot- but he is still at the point of not being able to get over the past. As if I killed him! I have now purchased 3 sessions with a DB coach. He doesnt know he would kill me! Everyone thinks he is not for me- very critical, cold , verbally abusive. Am i living in denial that I stil feel something when it seems so hopeless? Although what drew us together ( after our first marriages) - was probably my fear of being alone- I love him still despite this year and half of hell. Can I salvage this??
