I was just about to pat you on the back and suggest you continue doing what you are doing, and then I see this.....
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"Tonight my anxiety comes from her friends being in town. I never really felt they liked me in the first place and I fear that it's going to turn into a "you are right to leave him...you need to start over and get a new life" kind of weekend. I KNOW that a lot of that is in my head - but I really don't want them to make matter worse in my situation, and I feel that they are capable."
You've got to know that there are others who have already put a bug in your W's ear about what she should do. So why would these friends influence be any different?
You sound like you are getting better at detaching but then you allow your mind to go places that are dark and scary. Why? Let it go! Your W is an intelligent woman. She is perfectly capable of making choices for herself. Give her credit for reengaging with you in the way that she has. It she decides to recommit to the M it will be because she decided to and not because some friend told her she should.
Get rid of the negative thoughts and keep your focus.
You'll be fine!
Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11
It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.
Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
