Holy crap. I kept expecting her to admit to cheating with your sons asking the questions, and yet, nope. MLCers never cease to amaze me.
I can't get over that you keep your cool during all this, but you know, that's what the whole DB thing is about. Keeping a lid on reacting to crazy people.
I think your sons will need this therapy if only reason the reason that so many of us did need it when we were finally hit with the full force of the MLC liars...because it's so hard to process how they can lie right to your face. Your sons I am sure would actually feel better if she "came clean" but she probably never will. They will need therapy to teach them how to handle not getting the answers they want and not getting the true sincere apology they so truly deserve.
Be proud of your boys. This is horrible for them but they have really finally understood that you were not the horrible person that she tried to make you out to be. I think it was heartbreaking to read the part where your son realized that he spent so long "hating" you. Thank goodness he understands now, but that "lost time" is also going to haunt him and he was only a victim of her insanity. I hope he does not blame himself for that.
I'll keep you guys in my thoughts.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
E ... I don't really have anything to add ... we've talked about this so much, but I'm just so happy to see that you're finally getting to see some of the rewards for your hard work. That high road can be a b!tch, but there really is no other way.
(((hugs))) PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
Wow Eric. Holy ******* wow. I couldn't help but shake my head in disbelief when I read this. It was like I was reading my sitch. It's identical right down to XW accusing me of cheating and saying that she would go to therapy. I couldn't believe the similarities. It's almost freaky.
PEI, I agree with you. The high road is a bitch but worth it.
Antonia, you don't post to me anymore. I just wanted to say hello and hope that you are doing well.
Tad
Currently: M 56 XW 57 Sons 38,33,31,29
The Sitch: Married 26 years EA w/ OM 9/10 Bomb 10/10 (5 weeks after 25th anniversary) Sep 12/10 She wants D 1/11 W files 5/11 D final 10/11 XW marries OM 6/13
Wow. I'm glad your boys are that strong, E. Glad you kept your cool and glad you came back to post words of encouragement for taking the high road.
Be there for them. A lot for them to digest, especially the oldest (they often take the role of protector for their siblings; more to work out..)
Be good, amigo. And stay away from the tutu
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
