Soooo happy to hear from you! And everyone else who put there thought's here!!
Reconcilliation as a processing not an event I understand, the event itself can be rather, well, uneventfull!
But the process of reconcilliation is always on-going...2 months, 3 years or 10 years! Seeing to it that issues don't divide or separate you.
Dragonflie said....there are challenges that we don't think about having to deal with before the reconcilliation and before you know it.....there you are dealing with them!
Trying to be the best you can be all the time.....is one.
Afraid of what to say or not say is another.
The thing is there are no hard and fast rules and each situation seems quite unique.
It would just seem that it might be helpful if those who had experienced some reconcilliation might leave a few suggestions as to what to do and not do... Would that be not learning to do it for oursleves?
By the time we reconcile we need to have a handle on what is good for us and what is not or there won't be a successful reconcilliation?
I don't know...I can't post tonight....very rough night...too many bumps in the road and this is the first night in a very long time that I have actually cried.
When things were going so well it's even harder when they go sour...even for a little while....
My world seems to be teetering and I am getting dizzy trying to keep balance.
Very happy to see everyone's thought's here!!
I guess I was naive to expect no bumps! I cannot believe I actually thought this, but I must have, because I was so bitterly disappointed that this occured!! The fear and loathing that I felt were soo overwhelming...wow! I was taken by surprise.
Communication is key and we needed to clear something's up so I guess I should be happy that he shares feelings, especailly negative ones, because that gives me a chance to respond and also to hear what he feels!
Reconcilliation should not be all hearts and flowers and perfection, it needs to be a challenge so we are forced to grow.....make changes that better us......
